isolation can be a difficult concept to adapt to, and even some of the most diehard advocates for being alone can admit that life is always a bit better with some other people involved. Speaking strictly for myself, I’m not exactly “Mr. social” but I do enjoy the pleasure and benefits of a few good and valued friends. Considering my background and personality, if you’re still around and I speak to you regularly, I can say that you’re definitely doing something right.
But today’s post isn’t about me. It’s about having a partner as a means of getting things done. For the most part, when we set goals for ourselves, we usually do so through the lens of someone who intends on completing said goals on their own. But in reality, there’s a lot to be said for having a partner there to help you through, keep you motivated AND keep you accountable.
One good example is using a bench press. If you’ve seen any show that features a gym, you’ll usually see a scene where someone is using a bench press and has someone standing behind them to spot them. While this is done to prevent muscle failure from causing the steel bar to come crashing down on one’s trachea, it also helps to have that spotter cheering you on and pushing you. One has a greater tendency of lifting harder when one knows others are watching.
This is mostly because as people, we don’t like to feel failure or embarrassment in front of others. Although you shouldn’t necessarily care what others think of you, this reflex can be extremely handy in reaching any goal you set for yourself. This includes fitness, dieting or even learning a new skill. Knowing that a chosen partner will ask you if you completed the day’s workout or not makes you more likely to complete it for fear of having to admit otherwise, over the embarrassment of saying that you didn’t.
Having partners within one’s own household can be especially helpful, if said partners are willing to participate and join in on whatever goal you’re trying. On the other hand, if your goal is to stick to a particular diet and the people in your house are munching away on junk food while you’re wolfing down kale and tofu, it may be far more difficult to resist temptations and reach your goals.
In some instances, a partner will be a foregone conclusion. For example, if you join a karate class, you’ll often be partnered up with other people in order to train. Take it from me when I say that even though you CAN train by yourself in karate once you reach a certain experience level, it tends to suck. Big time. Most fitness and health goals will be not only easier but more fun when done with someone else.
The important thing to remember is to find a partner who has similar motivations and end goals as you do. Choosing a friend who usually quits things or has a different mindset can be frustrating, especially if they end up quitting shortly after starting. And a negative attitude will have the opposite effect of choosing a committed, dedicated partner. Food for thought… ☯️