I’ve often seen some of these so-called “life coaches” and motivational speakers go on about the “right way to live” or the right steps to take in order to be successful. Although I will agree that some motivational speakers have got some decent advice and can sometimes provide some inspiration, an individual’s specific success is dependent on, well… the individual!
Each person is customized and grows according to their own specific circumstances and lifestyle. So it stands to reason that finding the right way to live for you can be as individualized and specific as certain medical treatments working for one individual but not the other. Makes sense, right?
As deep-rooted as this way of thinking is for me, I occasionally find things that resonate with me and I would be remiss if I didn’t share them. And here we are! I found this list while I was busy wandering down the ol’ internet rabbit hole one night, and I was surprised to find that I agreed with everything on it, which again is a rarity for me. So here’s the list for a simple formula for living:
- Live beneath your means;
- Return everything you borrow;
- Stop blaming other people;
- Admit it when you make a mistake;
- Give your unworn clothes to charity;
- Do something nice whether others see you do it or not;
- Listen more, talk less;
- Take a 30 minute walk every day;
- Strive for excellence, not perfection;
- Be on time. Don’t make excuses;
- Don’t argue, get organized;
- Be kind to unkind people;
- Let someone cut ahead of you in line;
- Take time to be alone;
- Cultivate good manners;
- Be humble;
- Realize and accept that life isn’t fair;
- Know when to keep your mouth shut;
- Go an entire day without criticizing anyone;
- Learn from the past and plan for the future; but
- Live in the present;
- Don’t sweat the small stuff;
- It’s all small stuff.
These are all excellent practices to develop, and I’ll admit that #12 is likely the one I have the biggest difficulty with, as demonstrated in a post I wrote entitled Let The Hate Flow Through You… I have an unfortunate intolerance for other people being unkind to me or my family, and my very capable mouth has a tendency of responding accordingly.
Find the daily practices that are important to you and fit with your values. There’s nothing wrong with finding inspiration for this from other sources, but be sure that they work for you. What fits well in one person’s life may not fit in yours. And ultimately we are only responsible for our own happiness, nobody else’s. ☯