Life is short. Although the days often feel long, and the years can occasionally drag on, one has to acknowledge that in the grand scheme of things, a single life is but a flicker of the candle in humanity’s existence. And that flicker can come and go without notice, often without warning, and we are left carrying the flame of life without those who mean the world to us.
We live in a world where complaining has not only become easier than praising and encouraging, but it has almost become a world-based pastime. I would challenge any of my readers to go on their Facebook and post a status about their political, religious or social views and see what happens. I can almost guarantee that if you leave the post there, someone will start commenting to the negative about it. I got proof of this, months ago when someone who isn’t even a follower of my blog was able to comment and verbally attack me for the views I was writing about.
My point is that in a world where negative energy seems to be the norm, it becomes all that much more important to tell our loved ones how important they are to us and how much we love them. Telling your family, friends and loved ones “I love you” can have a deeper effect on both you and the receiver than you can possibly realize. But as a society, it seems to have become less and less of a habit than it should be and people seem to have difficulty speaking the words.
In our household, I’ve tried to instill the importance of following everyone to the door and seeing them off. When I leave the house, my wife and my two children all gets hugs, kisses and told that I love them. I think this is important.
Allow me to paint a morbid, albeit realistic portrait for you: Your significant other is occupied in the house and perhaps your children are busy playing. Instead of disturbing anyone, you decide to throw on your shoes and head off to work. While on route, you get into a deadly collision with another vehicle and you never make it to your destination. Yes, it IS a morbid image. But it’s one I’ve dealt with all too many times through my work.
Ask yourself, what would your last words to your loved ones have been? Were you correcting or punishing your children? Were you arguing with your spouse over bills? Were they words of affection of argument? One of the most common things that family members have told me during deaths in their family is how badly they regret not telling them that they loved them one last time before their loved one died.
So, why not prevent this issue? At the end of all things, the best words we can speak to anyone important to us is to tell them you love them. After all, you never know if these could be the last words you tell them. Don’t be afraid to say it. Make sure you tell your family and those who are important to you how much you love them. Not only will it enrich your life and theirs, they are the best potential last words you could ever speak. ☯